It's funny to me how society seems to dictate what is necessary in a person's life.   Or maybe not even what is necessary but what is fashionable or cool.   As a single person of 20 years I have had many people try to push me in the direction of a relationship. I've even had parishioners […]

It's funny to me how society seems to dictate what is necessary in a person's life.   Or maybe not even what is necessary but what is fashionable or cool.   As a single person of 20 years I have had many people try to push me in the direction of a relationship.

I've even had parishioners try to set me up with wealthy bachelor farmers so that I would stay in the church for a long time!   I always try to assure people that I'm doing just fine on my own and I like it that way.

Not that I'm advocating every who is single stay single; that's completely a matter of choice.   I know many married people who seem to be quite content in their relationships.   I can't help it if I did not feel that way in mine.

What really interests me is a trend in women's fashion to label items as “Boyfriend.”     Watches, jeans, t shirts, button down shirts, even underwear (who borrows their boyfriend's underwear?   Gross!) appear in catalogs and in shops and online as boyfriend items.

I confess when I was a young woman I would occasionally sneak a t shirt or something from my fiance to wear around the house.   There is something to be said for pheromones that attract us to each other.

This trend is not as new as I describe it; we've seen menswear before as a part of women's clothing options.   I just don't recall such a   particularly wide range of items that appear under this name.

It makes me wonder why the shoe isn't on the other   foot in men's fashions.   Rarely do we see something advertised as a girlfriend's jean or bathrobe or sweater.   To be fair, I have seen a bright pink t shirt bearing the slogan,”Don't laugh, this is   your girlfriend's shirt” but that's not quite the same thing.

Frankly, I know plenty of women who wear men's jeans because they are better fitting or men's shoes or even men's coats.   My daughter particularly likes oversized men's hoodies for comfort.   When I was in college I thought it was cool to buy men's   shirts in the secondhand store and wear them with the cuffs rolled up.

I have nothing against anybody wearing whatever they want no matter what department they shop in.   Some women are petite enough to shop in the children's department, after all.   I just find it amusing and not a little sexist that we women are targeted in fashion advertising encouraging us to buy items aimed to make us feel we would be better off in a relationship.

I say buy the boyfriend clothes if you want to wear them for comfort and style, but if you just want to look like you have a boyfriend to borrow clothes from,   march yourself to the men's department and get the real thing. Those clothes will belong to you and you belong to yourself!