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Devils Lake Journal - Devils Lake, ND
  • Lessons from Cancer: Thankful for my support

  • This is a quick update since I'm not quite up to writing a whole piece. I'm still a little foggy and think I've probably over-medicated myself on top of everything else that's happened, so I'm still a little out of it.

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  • This is a quick update since I'm not quite up to writing a whole piece. I'm still a little foggy and think I've probably over-medicated myself on top of everything else that's happened, so I'm still a little out of it.
    I got home from rehab on Tuesday, and it's been a blur since. I must have slept through a good part of it. I did have the physical and occupational evaluation, and they're coming back today along with the VNA, the home heath aids, which I need 24/7, and I'm not sure who else. I can't seem to remember the schedule, but thank goodness Karen has everything working so smoothly. My daughter has been absolutely incredible, and this is the hardest thing that she 's ever had to do. Everything pretty much falls on her shoulders, and not having any siblings or first cousins makes it even harder. She deserves incredible credit and a standing ovation.
    Thank goodness we've had incredible support, and if it wasn't for my closest friends and family who have been there for us without fail, I don't know what we would do. My cousins tried to do what they could, but people get tired and can only do so much before they want their life back to themselves. I can't blame anyone for that, but it makes me realize how much we really do have to rely on ourselves. My brother and sister-in-law have been fabulous, and they've tried to juggle their lives and make them fit into mine and have done the best job possible.
    I'm so grateful to each and everyone and don't mean to sound like I'm complaining, but this is another “lesson from cancer,” at least in my eyes. The bottom line is that I want to say "cherish your friends and family."
    My only regret, and it's the biggest one, is that Karen has this awful burden falling on her shoulders mainly, and I wish there was a way to make it easier on her. This is the hardest part of her being an only child.  She's doing such an incredible job of trying to keep everything together, stay so organized, is as supportive as anyone could possibly be, she comforts me, take great care of her husband and young children, and advocates with the doctors on my behalf.
    There's tons more that she's doing and I am so grateful and proud to call her my daughter.  This is one heck of a way for her to grow up fast and it's not what I would have chosen for her but it's her lot I guess.  I know that while this is the hardest thing she's ever had to do, she will eventually come out on top and grow through it.
    Page 2 of 2 - As her mother though, it just tears me up that she has to feel this pain and all I can do is pray for her and ask God to make it as easy as possible. If any of you would also pray for her, I'd be very grateful.
    I also want to thank all of my friends, readers and everyone who had been on this ride with us. I hope that it continues as long as possible, and I'm still not giving up by any means. I'll stay positive for as long as a can - hopefully forever and try to take it a moment at a time and be grateful for all of the blessings and people that I have in my life who are helping us each step of the way. Thank you to everyone from the bottom of my heart.
    Joyce Rothman of Massachusetts, a nurse for 40 years, was diagnosed with lung and pancreatic cancer in July 2010. Since then, she has been writing about her diagnosis, her treatment and her outlook on the process, in hopes of helping others. Follow her journey at http://makingsenseofitall.joycerothman.com.

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